Kiss before dating
There are two reasons why I think a cart blanche decision to save your kiss until marriage isn’t wise.First, we have to be careful not to make standards that are even the tiniest bit contrary to the heart of scripture. The Apostle Paul encourages us to greet each other with a holy kiss.The research also showed that most partners are introduced to friends for the first time after six dates or three weeks, and that people are most likely to introduce their new boy or girlfriend to their parents after 12 dates or six weeks.Most devout Christians believe that the Bible discourages sex before marriage, but what about other forms of physical affection before marriage?Instead, the counsel of many Christian advisers is to ask God for guidance to show the direction to follow.First, some types of kisses are acceptable and even expected.Moreover, even if the connection is there, she has to be willing to kiss you. Amidst growing pressure for a Christian girl to save her first kiss for her wedding day, I see this decision becoming something of a fad.
If you wait too long, she may give up on the kiss and you may end up in the friend zone.In the beginning, on the first or second date, she will be thinking about the kiss.By the third date, she may be ready for it and really waiting for you to make a move.While each and every circumstance is different and I admire many who make that choice, I’m going to suggest that in most cases it’s not the best choice and can slowly grow into an unhealthy form of legalism and pride. Just a few months ago, I was counseling a young woman who’d made the choice to save her first kiss until her wedding day.It was more than devastating when she didn’t live up to the standard and ended up giving away much more than a kiss to a guy who was only a friend. I think, for her, the decision to save her first kiss was a legalistic choice in an effort to conform to those around her rather than a specific personal calling prompted by time in communion with God. If your choice to save your first kiss is primarily to conform to people around you, please your parents, or fit in with your homeschool group…it is an empty decision that leaves you open to powerful temptations that may leave you giving up more than just a kiss.